Snapshots Of Pastoring: The One Lost Sheep

I'll call him Arnold. I met him several years ago, and we've developed a conversational friendship, although he has not been attending my church. I've figured him to be a soft-spoken guy who knows how to come across as cultured, but just beneath the surface is a lot that's untamed and probably unattractive. My church has done a good job of ministering to his little girl, the joy of his life, and this has engendered an earnest respect on his part. Arnold has led a hard life. He's a body builder, dabbled in some Ultimate Fighting, purports to do some detective work, and on the practical side makes a living with his own lawn maintenance company. He has struggled to pay bills. And he has worked hard to impress others with how very tough he is. Recently he entered into some bad activities with some very bad people and has seen his life spiral far down and out of control. And since we have made connection in the past, he was willing to contact me for help. I see in this man's heart an earnest search for something more substantial in life, almost a desperation. We've done a good bit of connecting this week. I like the guy, even as I realize in another scenario he could crush my skull! We have talked, prayed, and I've called him to let him know he is on my heart. I believe God has brought us together at this very time for a reason. I think God is going to use me to help this guy find peace and the pathway to meaningful life. And times like this leave me with humility, wondering once again why God would use me in such an important capacity. Equally I sense a great satisfaction with who I am and what I am about at this point in life.

So often I allow myself to become enveloped in the mechanics of church and the foibles of some church people, and the job becomes a drag. But loving a man like Arnold and helping him find answers brings refreshment and energy.



posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 10.16.08 (6:42 pm)

and ultimately, isn't that EXACTLY what you are supposed to be doing?

I'm glad you are the one he found, he must have been led to you.



posted by: auntconi (reply)
post date: 10.16.08 (9:15 pm)

Prayers for you as you work to help Arnold.



posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 10.17.08 (12:31 am)

So glad you are there during his time of need PD..



posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 10.17.08 (7:07 am)

Reply to: fractalmom
Here's my opinion: The main business of a church- not a congregational gathering- is to represent Christ by loving others. When we do such even semi-well, then those outside the church are attracted.



posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 10.17.08 (7:08 am)

Reply to: auntconi
Thank you. It's a process.



posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 10.17.08 (7:09 am)

Reply to: LadyG
I think every person, along the way, has such times of need. Such intersections in life can be used of God in wonderful, positive ways. I like to try to facilitate that process.



posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 10.17.08 (1:07 pm)

Good luck with Arnold. Hopefully you can set him on the right path. Of course that would mean not discussing politics! heh



posted by: spook102956 (reply)
post date: 10.18.08 (12:29 am)

I love this quote from our pastor: "A church is not a museum of saints but a hospital for sinners." Sounds to me also that it is meant to be for you to be the one to help this person. God bless you and him.



posted by: surrogate (reply)
post date: 10.20.08 (6:31 pm)

Maybe you can give him some bodyguard work protecting you from the slings and arrows of blogging. -Hope he gets his life in order.



posted by: pineapples (reply)
post date: 10.23.08 (3:44 pm)

I think we meet someone at a certain time to either learn something from them and or to teach them. There is always something to be learned from someone

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